I hate my voice

I hate my voice


Hey, everyone. I’m Jade. What I’m talking
about today is what it really means to hate the sound of your own voice. Now, it’s not
an unusual thing at all. So often, when a person hears the sound of their voice played
to them, they’re like, “Ugh! Who’s that? It sounds horrible!” They don’t even recognize
themselves. And that’s because the way your voice sounds in your head, through your head,
is very different. It’s deeper. And also, you hear it as if you’re speaking faster than
you actually speak. So people are often unsettled and uncomfortable about the way their voice
sounds. But on a deeper level, I think it means something else when you hate the sound
of your own voice. And I really think we should change that. So that’s what I’m talking about
today, changing what you think about the way your voice sounds. So when you’re ready, let’s
get started. Most of us use our voices every single day
of our lives. We use our speech to connect with people, to share, and all the meaningful
relationships in our lives are built through communication. So does it not make sense to
develop our voices because if we do that, it means we can do all those other really
important things much better? To me it makes sense. But yet, so few people care about the
way they sound. And more than that, so many people hate the way they sound. And to me,
that means two things. You have some people who hate the way they sound because, you know
what? They hate themselves. So when they’re hearing their voice played to them, it makes
them feel uncomfortable. They’re hearing what other people are hearing. And they’re not
comfortable with themselves. So it really comes out, really, in this idea of hearing
yourself when you have self-acceptance issues or self-worth issues.
What if you did work on your voice and over time, you changed from hating it to acceptance
to feeling kind of good about it to ultimately being proud of your voice? Wouldn’t that change
the way you felt about yourself? I think it could.
And then, the other people, well, these are the ones who don’t care and are just not bothered.
“Yeah. I heard my voice. My voice is pretty boring.” Or, “You know what? To be honest,
my voice, it kind of grates on the ears.” If you hear that in your voice when you’re
listening to yourself, and you decide that you don’t want to do anything about it, that
is you’re not wanting the best for yourself. You’re simply not being bothered. But also,
if that’s what you think about your voice, and you’re not just being really self-critical
and down on yourself — if that is an objective view that your voice is like that — really
boring — why are you allowing that for other people? Why are you allowing other people
to suffer the sound of your voice every day? So here, we have another side that if you
think it sounds awful, why are you making other people suffer listening to it all the
time? So on the two sides here, we have excellent
reasons to do something about the way you sound. Change the way you sound. And to do
that, I’m saying to you, you need to start thinking of your voice as your musical instrument,
okay? You’re playing this instrument every single day. Why don’t you make it enjoyable
to listen to? Now, like any instrument, when you start to
play it, no one wants to be around you. It’s pretty annoying. And it takes a long time
to get good. But if you don’t give up the practice and you keep at it, eventually, you
can get to a stage where you can delight an audience with your voice. And doesn’t that
feel good? Isn’t it much better than avoiding situations where you might have to speak in
public or just having that uncomfortable feeling about your voice?
So what I’m suggesting to you is you start to change this really limiting belief about
your voice. “I hate my voice”, basically because it means, “I don’t feel good about myself”
or “I just don’t care.” Not good. Your voice is your instrument. Play it every day the
best you possibly can, and that’s all I’m going to say about it today.
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