5 Tips on How to Dress for Your Wedding | A Groom’s Guide to Wedding Dress Code

5 Tips on How to Dress for Your Wedding | A Groom’s Guide to Wedding Dress Code


5 Tips on How to Dress for Your Wedding A
Groom’s Guide to Wedding Dress Code [0:00:00] Hi! I’m Antonio Centeno. I’m the founder of
Real Men Real Style. Today, gentlemen, I’m going to give you five tips on how to dress
for your wedding. This is basically a groom’s guide, an intro to style. I’m not going to
get into the specifics of each type of dress code. That’s something I’ve got an entire
video on. I talk about black tie, formal dressing, semi-formal dressing, white tie, casual weddings.
I know I could get into a lot more of this. If you are interested, you’re getting married
maybe this year, getting married here pretty soon, go check out Smart Groom Guide. I go
into a lot more detail there. In fact, that’s an entire course that helps a groom not only
with the clothing, but also with the etiquette, gift guides, all of the little things that
make weddings sometimes a hassle. I try to give you guys some checklist on the duties,
even some music ideas, gift ideas for all the groomsmen and everything perhaps involved
in your wedding. The purpose of this, I’m going to give you
five tips. These are very general, high-level tips, but they’re important because it all
starts with number one, which is be the best-looking man you can be. Now, there are a lot of things
we can’t control in life. Our face and the way it’s shaped, what we were given, we can’t
really change that, but what we can do is we can work on the packaging. That’s one of
the things I talk about at Real Men Real Style and my other website, A Tailored Suit, other
websites across where I guest post. I always talk about the purpose of clothing
is to help you be the best man you can be. It simply gives you a bit of strength. It’s
like a piece of armor that fits on you on your wedding day, the day that you commit
yourself to another person. It’s a sign of respect. That’s really what it’s about. You’re
showing not only respect to your bride. You’re showing respect to everyone, your family,
your friends, everyone who is invested in you and wants to be a part of your journey.
That’s why we’re dressing and you want to put your best foot forward. In those pictures, for decades, people are
going to look back — you’re going to look back on those pictures. Your kids are going
to look back on those pictures, your grandkids, and you want to in a sense be, “Wow! Grandpa
was really handsome. I can see why grandma went for him.” That’s the kind of response
you want to get, not something like, “Wow! I can tell this was in the 1970s,” which you
can with some wedding pictures. Now, point number two, start early and I’m
talking about 90 days out if you can and that’s a bare minimum. The reason you want to start
preparing all of this early, number one, you’re going to save a lot of money if you have time
to start assembling. I own a custom clothier. One of the most expensive things I would say
when a guy comes in is he needs everything rushed. Literally he’s getting married in
two weeks and we’re having to stop everything, put his order up to the front overnight, that
kind of stuff, which brings in point number two. It brings in a lot of stress because
if it’s not right, then you’re going to have to compromise. You’re going to have to find
something that works. Give yourself time. Give yourself about 90
days. If you can give yourself longer, especially if you’re on a very tight budget, you could
start looking in thrift stores. You can ask around. You can find things that you’re going
to get for pennies on a dollar. You’re going to be able to save a lot of money. Have a short time frame? Okay, you’re probably
going to spend a little bit more, but number three — and this goes with giving yourself
time — practice what you’re going to be wearing. What do I mean by that? Actually wear the
clothing. Now, a little bit more difficult if you’ve decided you’re going to go with
black tie. Now, I talk about this in another video and
in my guide to everything, when you should wear black tie or white tie. A vast majority
of you guys know — or a morning dress. You’re probably not going to go with that. Maybe
you guys watching me over at London, perhaps you will, but for most people, the highest
level they’re going to go is black tie or the tuxedo. I would recommend though thinking about suits.
The great thing about a suit and how it applies to this point practicing is if you get a dark
suit, you can wear it with other things. All of a sudden, you can own that suit early.
You can perhaps wear it out to an evening out of town with your fiancé. You can wear
it around and you can possibly even wear it to work. You want to be careful. You don’t
want to damage it. Ideally, what you want is to get a feel for it. Okay. I’m used to wearing this. What you don’t
want to have is on your wedding day — and this is why I think a lot of formal clothing
gets such a bad name, is we only wear it — and it’s almost like a costume. Clothing is a
costume if you’re only wearing it for that one event and you’re not used to it. What
you want is something that actually you’re proud to wear. You’ve worn it before and you
feel comfortable in. You’ve actually identified some of the hotspots, perhaps had them tailored
and adjusted to fit by a local tailor or seamstress, so you’re used to wearing it. You feel comfortable in it. It’s not the first
time and you can really dress things down by just wearing it open collar, white shirt
or something like that, but ideally you want to practice wearing what you’re going to wear,
especially the shoes. Don’t wear brand new shoes the first day. Practice wearing those
shoes even if it’s around the house. Practice wearing the clothing. [0:05:06] Point number four, decide on a dress code
and announce it. Now, I’ve talked about this. We’ve got from black tie to semi-formal to
suits to almost business wear to a casual wedding. The thing is you want to be very
clear not only with the immediate people that are going to be in the wedding party, but
you want to let people that are going to attend. That’s one of the things and that’s a whole
separate video in which people have asked me, “Antonio, I’m going to a wedding” or “Antonio,
I’ve been invited to a wedding this summer. I’ve been invited to a wedding on the beach.”
Be very clear in the invitation what the dress code is, and if you have room, if you can
expand on it, give people examples. Now, understand that as the groom, you’re
going to be expected to be the best dressed man there. Well, maybe not, perhaps if you
get married in Vegas and you’ve had a little bit to drink. Well, don’t get married if
you’ve had a little bit to drink in Vegas. The point is the vast majority of time, the
groom is expected to be the best dressed man at the wedding, so that’s going to set the
standard for every other man that’s going to be attending the wedding, so be very clear
what the dress code is and what’s expected. Number five, communicate with your future
wife. Now, I know some of you guys are saying, “Antonio, that’s where it’s all going to start.
She’s in charge.” Well, I’d like to challenge that. I think it’s important that a man has
a say, that he’s able to go back and he’s able to look at it. If you’re in the United
States, we have this new tradition — and this is relatively new — in which you have
all of these groomsmen and they’re all matching. Honestly, this came out of the rental industry
because they said, “Hey, if we do this, we can rent more tuxes.” Don’t feel that you have to do this. What
I like to do is see a group actually give a dress code and say, “Everyone needs to show
up in dark, solid suits” that are classic, that fit them well, and we want to maintain
this general look. But to be honest, that’s going to be perfectly fine. Give people direction. That’s the cool thing about a dress code,
but communicate that with your bride. Make sure she’s onboard with it. I think if you’re
able to take the bull by the horns and you’re able to say, “Hey, I’ve researched this. I’m
going to run with this. I’m going to make sure that everyone is up to snuff,” then she’s
going to be fine with it. I’ve been to weddings, I’ve been in weddings
in which we show up and everyone is renting and half of them don’t even fit. In fact,
one time I remember we’re going to a wedding and my wife is adjusting people’s suits. She’s
not even a seamstress, but she knows how to sew. She’s adjusting people’s suits in the
van as we’re heading to the wedding so that they fit a bit better. Half the stuff was
ill-fitted. Guys, that’s what happens when you rent, nothing
against rentals. I’m sorry. I know some of you guys out there own those types of stores,
but the problem is when you’re not prepared. If you go through these tips, again, go check
out Smart Groom Guide. I go into a lot more detail there. Guys, at the end of it, I wish
you the best in your wedding and have fun on what is going to be one of the days that
you’re going to look back — I’m not going to say it’s going to be your most fun day,
but I will say it’s going to be one of those days that you’re going to remember for the
rest of your life. You’re going to look back on it and your family is going to be proud
that you are able to show up there and put your best foot forward for your future bride,
for your family, and for yourself. All right guys, take care. See you in the
next video. Bye-bye. [0:08:36] End of Audio

30 thoughts on “5 Tips on How to Dress for Your Wedding | A Groom’s Guide to Wedding Dress Code”

  1. I love your videos, but they are very straight focused. I am a gay man trying to dress better for I am going into a professional career, but a lot your tips are very heteronormative and they do make me reconsider suggesting these videos to friends. Please consider changing some of the langue in our videos. This would be very much appreciated and mean a lot. 

  2. Interesting. Im actually going to be attending a wedding in August, however it is white tie. Would a regular tailor be able to make slim fit white tie attire? Also would an Imperial collar be appropriate or too old fashioned? Cheers Antonio.

  3. Antonio I really love the tie you're wearing! Where is it from? Also great video, even if I still have plenty of years before even thinking about marriage.

  4. He forgot to tell us men that marriage in America in 2015 is a potentially life-ruining mistake. Financial, emotional and social ruin are distinct possibilities.

  5. Antonio! Hello, I love your videos, they'd really helped me in a number of ways.

    I live in argentina, and here clothing (proper clothing) is expensive; a 'good' shirt will cost at least 120 dollars and a really good shirt (not an excellent one) can cost up to 300 dollars. The minimum wage here is 400 dollars, so you can see the problem. However, I know a 'tailor shop' I guess (pardon my lack of vocabulary) that makes really good made-to-measure shirts in a 150-250 dollar price range.

    My question is, is it worthy to expend 200 dollars on a custom made shirt? What are the pros and cons of these type of shirts? Any advice on what things we should avoid?

    Thank you very much,

    Santiago.

  6. Nice info Antonio but I had a question about sleeves and suits, should the sleeve of your shirt go out and be showing or be longer than the suit's sleeve or should the suit have a longer sleeve than the shirt?

  7. @Real Men's Barber Shop  not to be offensive but you seem to have gained a bit of weight around your cheek bones.

  8. Hey antonio, Been huge watcher of all your videos. My main question, as a younger man in my early 20s, how can a man dress smart casual and yet retain a playful look. I feel i'm still dressing to serious for my lifestyle and detracting (mainly university and work) – nice pair of chinos, a jacket and smart casual shirt. How can guys dress to be more playful and not serious? like when I see male models in pictures conveying the playboy style. Thanks alot man, keep up the great work. Matt

  9. Great video. My brother is getting married this spring. Unfortunately I will not be at my weight goal. I'm planning on getting a thrift suit and having it adjusted. How soon in advance should I get it to a tailor? I'm thinking maybe 2 weeks? Also, I'm losing about 4 pounds a week now. Will getting it adjusted and losing about 8-10 affect my fit very much?

  10. I lucked out with my gf.  I will just be rocking a blazer and some jeans and a nice pair of boots.  We didn't want the hassle of a huge wedding.  That said, I appreciated your other video on wearing a blazer or sport coat with jeans, it helped me quite a bit!

  11. might aswell dress the best on that day because after that unless you are thinking about having an affair, its beer belly and cargo pants baby 🙂

  12. i'm going to get married on the 14 of may,my favorite color is mint green,what kind of color suits should my becoming husband wear???

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  15. just sharing my experience when i go for bespoke suit, all the local tailors/salesperson always asked me "how fast do i want the suit to be done?". then, i always told them "take all the time that you need. i'm not in a rush".

    so it turns out, most of their other customers find them to make last minute fitting because they had meeting/event/dinner/wedding 2-3 days from now. and seems like a culture in my area. and the suit turns out very, very bad because the stitching is rushed, no fitting at all, just one measurement, cheap fabric.

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